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There is a goal on your list that you have carried for a long time. Perhaps you still want it. Perhaps you have become so used to working toward it that you have not asked yourself recently.
You can ask without making an immediate decision. Taking a closer look at a goal does not mean you have to abandon it, quit your job, or explain yourself to everyone who knows about the plan.
In The Purpose Path, the Desire Clearing practice makes space for this question: do I actually want this, or was I told to?
Write the expectations down
The practice begins with a list titled Everything I think I should want. Set aside time to write before deciding which answers are acceptable.
You might include work, relationships, money, a place to live, or something you have not said aloud. Use your own words. This list is for you to examine, rather than a statement you have to defend.
Then read it back. Ask the same question of each item. What do I want about this? What have I assumed I should want? What remains unclear?
You may discover that a goal still matters, but for a different reason than before. Or that one part matters while the rest no longer fits. Leave room for an answer with more detail than yes or no.
Look at what is true now
The first week's Life Audit asks you to consider different areas of your life and explain the score you give each one. You can use that approach to put a goal in context.
How does the goal relate to your work, health, relationships, rest or enjoyment? What do you value about moving toward it? What do you want to consider more carefully?
Keep the reflection specific to your experience. You do not need to decide that disappointment proves you have been living someone else's life. You can notice a feeling and ask what you want to understand about it.
Giving yourself an honest answer is enough work for one moment. The decision can come after you have had time to think.
Make a list that sounds like you
The final part of Desire Clearing asks you to write what you actually want. Let the list include small things. Let it contain answers that would not make an impressive announcement.
You can want a quieter week, more time with someone, a skill you enjoy learning, or a different way to use your time. These are possible examples; your own list may look very different.
When you are ready, use the Purpose Map to explore strengths, interests and needs you care about. Look for a direction you want to investigate, rather than a label that promises to explain your whole life.
Choose one question you would like to answer before taking the next step. You do not need to replace every old goal with a new one today.
Which goal would you like to look at again, using what you want now?
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With love, Chenzo Holistic Coaching Founder of The Purpose Path Podcast

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