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You're scrolling at night and you see someone's travel photo. Or a job posting for something that sounds nothing like what you do now. Or a friend mentions they quit and are "doing their own thing." And something in your chest moves. Not excitement. Pressure. A small voice that says, "You're not where you're supposed to be."
You start researching. Maybe it's a certification. Maybe it's a location. Maybe it's a business idea you've been sitting on. The pull feels real. It feels like calling. So you make plans. You set a date. And for maybe three days, you feel lighter.
Then the panic starts. Small at first. A tightness in your throat when you tell someone. A heaviness in your stomach at 2 AM when you're alone with the decision. And you wonder: is this my purpose, or am I just running?
Here's what I've learned. A calling and an escape feel almost identical at the start. They both involve movement. They both promise relief. But they come from completely different places in your body.
An escape is born from pain you cannot sit with anymore. It can look like purpose on the outside. It sounds right when you talk about it. But underneath, it's "I have to get out." The pull is away from something, not toward something. Your nervous system is in fight mode, not flow. You're not following a yes. You're fleeing a no.
A calling is different. It's uncomfortable too, but in a different way. It pulls you forward even when it's hard. It asks things of you. It doesn't promise to make the pain go away. It says, "This matters, and you're the one to do it." A calling comes with a kind of steadiness underneath the fear. An escape comes with a frantic energy, even if you don't admit it.
Most people get this wrong because they're taught that escaping is a form of self-care. Leave the toxic job. Get away from the person who brings you down. Move to a new city and start over. And yes, sometimes you have to move to survive. But moving to escape is not the same as moving toward something. And your body knows the difference.
What doesn't work is trying to force the feeling. You can't think your way into knowing if it's a calling. You can't make a spreadsheet of pros and cons and have it tell you the truth. A lot of people will tell you to "follow your heart" or "trust your gut." But if your gut is in fight-or-flight mode because you're trying to escape something, your gut is not trustworthy. It's screaming.
So what actually helps? You have to slow down. And I know that's the opposite of what the escape energy wants you to do. But slow down anyway.
Ask yourself this: If I stayed in my current situation but the pain part disappeared, would I still want this new thing? Not the adventure of it. Not the newness. The actual day-to-day work. The reality of it, not the fantasy of it.
If the answer is yes, you might be looking at a calling. If the answer is no or unclear, you might be looking at an escape wearing calling clothes.
Here's a concrete move. Write down what you want to leave. Be specific. Not "my job." The thing about your job. Not "this city." The feeling being there gives you. Get it all out. Don't judge it. It's real.
Then write down what you want to move toward. Again, specific. Not "freedom." What does freedom look like in a Tuesday morning. Not "my purpose." What is the actual work, the actual life.
Then sit with both for a week. Not thinking about it. Just sit with it. Feel it in your body. Does the calling one still pull you when you're not in crisis? Does the escape one still promise relief when you're calm?
I had a client who wanted to move across the world to "find herself." We did this exercise. What she was escaping was a relationship that was ending and a group of friends that wasn't holding her anymore. What she was being called to was teaching. The movement and the calling were not the same thing. So she stayed where she was, grieved the relationship and the friendship, and started teaching part-time. Within six months, she was clearer than if she'd run.
The calling came anyway. It didn't need the escape to show up.
Which one are you sitting with right now. Is it a yes toward something or a no toward something else. Tell me in the comments.
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With love, Chenzo Holistic Coaching Founder of The Purpose Path Podcast

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